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TheFlowStyler Interview with Efe Ezekiel Founder of UshineIshine Mentoring

Flow Styler Interview Posted on 22 May, 2016 10:37AM

When you meet Efe you know you are in the presence of energy. Efe shines! Here is a woman who is unapologetically herself and determined to spread the word about being who you are to others. Efi’s mentoring work therfore focuses on young adults who are under ever more pressure from the media, social media and peer pressure to conform instead of be who they are. Find out Efe’s journey to Finding & Following herself and her Flow.

Tell me a little bit more about what
kind of work you do?

Hey There, I am Efe… a very happy and joyous woman! I was
brought up in one of the best places on earth. East London and my heritage is
Nigerian so I am an Afrobrit. I love my
life because I have dedicated my life to uplifting and inspiring the young
people of the world. I get up every day with Purpose, Passion and light.

I am a Youth Mentor and Founder of my company
‘Ushine Ishine’ youth mentoring company. I produce inspiring content for
YouTube, Write for Blogs, Speak and Host at events, develop content for
TV/Radio and get to educate and deliver workshops for young people on
self-development and Life skills. Plus so much more.

What
inspired you become a Mentor for
Children and Young People ?

I knew that I always wanted to teach Children and Young
People. So, after many years as a TV and Radio Producer in Advertising I
decided that I had to live my dreams of teaching children but in a very unique
and Efe type of way. Therefore, not feeling complete in my existing career inspired
me to go for my desired life. Both scary but very exhilarating!

How did you
make the decision to become a Mentor for Children and Young People? Was there ever a time when you weren’t sure or
did you always know you were?

I made the decision from a very young age that this was going
to be my destiny. I just didn’t know how it was going to manifest itself… God
obviously had big plans for me as a Teacher but just not as I knew it. When I
had made the decision that this was going to be my way of life…I was 100% sure.
I had no doubt at all because at that moment I knew happiness.

What has
been the biggest learning curve for you on your journey to becoming Mentor for Children and Young People ?

Building a business and brand is not easy. You have to learn
to be able to shout about your work and never be afraid to be confident. People
are still not comfortable with people extolling their virtues unless they are
celebrities, wealthy and in the public eye. Be Great is my advice to everyone.
Don’t doubt yourself and always be innovative. Plus, love the struggle, as that
will be the learning!

What gets you inspired?

My Mentees and all children in general…they are amazing and
inspire every moment of my life and work. Also, The everyday woman who is
working on her dream and helping others is my joy and keeps me going.

How would
you describe the state you are in when you mentor ?

Complete
Bliss!!! It feels like destiny, truth and accomplishment. Especially, When you
see a child blossom in front of your eyes.

If being in
your Flow is: the state where your passion(s) (something that raises above all
your interests) and natural talent merge. What is yours?

My flow is knowing that I took a chance to change my life and
in that change I have the opportunity to change the direction or thought
pattern of a child or young persons views on themselves or their future. Flow
to me in waking up everyday knowing that your purpose is service to others and
be at true peace within yourself. Flow is also my belief in God and knowing
that the power of faith is so miraculous and never failing.

What is more
important? Talent or passion in your view? Why is that?

Passion is
all. Lots of people die with great talent but if you have passion you can learn
and do anything!!!

How did you
first come to recognize your unique talent and passion?

I knew it from an early age that I was a people person. I
also used to volunteer at my brothers and sisters school and the kids loved it
when I came to school. However, I really got it a decade ago when I held my
first session and the young people were completely engaged and enjoyed my
presentation.

How did your
talent evolve?

My talent evolved over many years with grass-roots works, volunteering,
immersing myself in youth culture and working supremely hard at understanding
the issues, problems and joys of children.

What made
you stick to your plan despite obstacles?

I gave
myself no other choice.

Why do you
think it is it important to follow our Flow?

My flow is something that I have only truly found over the
past few years and it evolves everyday.
My mantra:
Be in flow and you will always go wherever you want and be whomever
you wish and get everything you deserve.

What is the
best thing about being self-employed?

Freedom…nothing
better than Freedom and living on your own terms.

How do you
keep motivated?

Being around
beautiful people who love me. Also, I know that I have to express my love and
creativity through my business Ushine Ishine.

What advice
would you give to women who want to follow their Flow and make a change in
their lives?

Make a bold and brave decision and have a vision and stay
focused…regardless of the timing, circumstances or opinions. Listen to your
inner voice. I had to do this throughout and it has lead me to great
opportunities, love and self-knowledge.

Did you have
any idea as a child you’d end up doing the things you’ve done/ you are doing
now?

No way, If you told me that I would have trained and mentored
thousands of children, young people and adults. Now, working on the next
platform of mentoring all over the world and producing/creating content to
inspire. I would have said “are you crazy?’’ The only thing I knew at a very
small age that I wanted to teach and I loved being in the company of people and
looking after the little children and babies.

What has
been your biggest challenge?

My biggest
challenge was Self-belief…we don’t realise how important that is for everything
that we do. I knew that I had all of this in me but sometimes it’s not easy to
believe in your dreams when people are constantly telling you that it is unrealistic
and not for you but I follow my heart and definitely went with my flow…

Do you believe it is possible to have a
fulfilling career around your passion and have a family?

Yes…we can have it all. All
depends on what ‘all’ means and is to the individual. I know that I will have
it all and I always wanted a lot and have very high standards. Career, family,
friends and empire.

What’s next
for you?

Everything! Lol! Well, continued happiness and joy but
continued Mentoring, Speaking/hosting /Presenting to great audiences worldwide
and then creating content to reflect my brand, philosophy and light of Ushine
Ishine. I am here to leave a big, bright and powerful legacy for our children
and young people all over the world. This is the greatest and most amazing blessing
of life. I am so excited!

Ushine Ishine People.

http://ushineishine.com/welcome/

Thank you Efe for this wonderful and inspiring interview. I look forward to connecting with you again soon!

Big love,

xx Petra xx



How She Found & Followed her Flow – Founder of Body in Motion Pilates – Victoria Enaut

Flow Styler Interview Posted on 17 Apr, 2016 08:44PM

I met Vicky fifteen years ago when we were both at Sussex University, studying subjects we both are far removed from today. Already at University Vicky was very health conscious and loved dancing ballet but as her career took her to the Hague as a Press Officer, for the United Nations’ Tribunal for the former Yugoslavia, she realised this was not what she wanted to do for the rest of her life. To escape the stress of her role she started practising Pilates and fell in love. She realised she wanted the lifestyle her teachers had and finally took the leap and signed up to become a teacher herself, and the rest is history…

Vicky now
runs her own ‘Body in Motion’ Pilates Business and is a mummy to her three year
old son. Read on to find out how she
Found & Followed her Flow:

Tell me a little bit more about what you do?

I am a Pilates teacher. I qualified just over a year ago
with Body Control Pilates and have since been running my own business, teaching
group and private classes in London. I used to work as a Press Officer for the
United Nations’ Tribunal for the former Yugoslavia. I quit my job over two
years ago shortly after my son was born.

What inspired you to become a Pilates teacher?

The inspiration came gradually really, it wasn’t
immediately obvious to me that this was what I wanted to do. I was passionate
about Pilates and envious of my teachers, of their lifestyle and the fact they
seemed so passionate about what they were doing and yet so relaxed. I was passionate
about my job but really stressed and it just didn’t feel right. I knew I did
not want to always feel this way about work and that I needed to do something
about it.

How did you make the decision to become a Pilates teacher? Was
there ever a time when you weren’t sure or did you always know you were going
to become a Pilates teacher?

It took me a few years to take the plunge. Deep down I knew
this was what I wanted to do but it was almost as if I didn’t want to admit it
to myself because it felt crazy to leave a very well paid, exciting, prestigious
job towards which I had invested so much. I would speak about my idea about
becoming a Pilates teacher to my friends and they were all very encouraging but
I worried a lot about what my parents would think or say. I was wary of
disappointing them.

The trigger was getting pregnant! My partner and I had been
living apart for over 5 years and we didn’t want to carry on like this,
especially as we were expecting a child. I was unhappy at work and knew that I
couldn’t bring up a child whilst feeling this anxious. Neither did I want to be
a stay at home mum. So that’s when it all became crystal clear to me. My
parents thought the idea was great and they were extremely supportive. I moved
back to London and started my training course when my son was 18 months old. A
year later I was a qualified Pilates teacher!

What has been the biggest learning curve for you on your
journey to becoming a Pilates teacher ?

Learning about biomechanics and kinesiology! I was never
into science when I was at school. I studied Social Anthropology and Conflict
Studies at university. I always thought I would progress my career within
international relations or something related. And here I am now talking about
movement and helping people feel better in their body! I never expected to
enjoy this aspect of my training this much. Going back to the previous
question, another thing I was worried about was not feeling intellectually
stimulated enough. Now I find myself wanting to have more time away from my
books to train physically!

What gets you
inspired?

I have always been inspired by people who do what they love
for a living. I used to admire women who were fully committed to their work and
were passionate about it. But since having a child, I am much more aware of needing
a balance in order to be happy. And those individuals, women AND men, who
achieve this balance are those that truly inspire me. I now know how hard it is
to find a balance. And it is much harder than being all about that one big
thing!

How would you describe the state you are in when you teach?

It just feels right. Of course there are days when I’d
rather be doing something else then teach. We all have good days and bad days,
but right now I just don’t see myself doing anything else. What I am doing now
is what makes the most sense and feels the most right. So generally, when I
teach, I feel complete and fulfilled.

If being in your Flow is : the state where your passion(s)
(something that rises above all your interests) and natural talent merge. What
is yours?

My passion is Pilates. I love the way it connects the mind
to the body by getting you to focus on your movement. My natural talent is
communication, understanding people’s needs and responding to these. So I am in
my flow when I teach Pilates and people come up to me at the end of the class beaming
saying how much better they feel.

What is more important? Talent or passion in your view? Why
is that?

I don’t think that one can go without the other. If you
want to find and remain in “your flow”, then you have to be doing something
that you are not only passionate about but also naturally good at. You don’t
have to be 100% good at it at first. It would be boring if you were because
part of the fun of it all is the continuous learning and developing, but the
basic skills got to be there in you. I think otherwise you could easily run out
of steam. Similarly, with no passion, any hurdle will be an excuse to give up.

How did you first come to recognize your unique talent and
passion?

My talent at communicating really became apparent in my
previous job. I had a natural way of communicating and getting on with
colleagues and journalists. My favourite aspect of my work as a Press Officer
was providing a service to journalists. Whilst I was conscious of representing
an organisation, I also wanted to make sure that the journalists’ needs were
met to as far an extent as possible.

My passion grew alongside my work. Pilates was a way to
escape from all the stress and anxiety. It also came quite naturally to me as
it reminded me of ballet. The better I got at it, the more addicted and
passionate I became. Then it was just a matter of putting the two together –
communicating my love of Pilates to others, teaching them in a way that is
relevant to their needs and getting them to feel the benefits of it.

How did your talent evolve?

I have been very lucky to always have had great teachers
who taught me well and were passionate about what they were doing. I trained
with one of the best schools of Pilates
in the UK and what I love the most about Body Control Pilates is that they
don’t only train you to be good at Pilates but also to be the best teacher
possible.

What made you stick to your plan despite obstacles?

Sheer determination and confidence that I was doing the
right thing. I think that when you are “in your flow” no obstacle is insurmountable.
If you find yourself hitting many obstacles and struggling to get over them,
then that’s when you might want to stop and think “Hang on, is the thing I am
struggling with really making sense and is it worth it?”

Why do you think it is it important to follow our Flow?

Simply because it makes you a much happier person. Whatever it is, it is vital to be doing
something that feels right deep down. When you do something that makes you
truly happy, people see it and admire it. I am so much more confident than I
ever was, because I have stopped questioning my choices or comparing my
situation with that of others.

What is the best thing about being self-employed?

Being my own boss, although I am very good at putting
myself under a lot of pressure. I can be my worst enemy sometimes!

How do you keep motivated?

I keep myself motivated by carrying on learning and keeping
myself physically and intellectually stimulated. I also keep myself motivated
by not doing just Pilates but by keeping interested in other things that make
me happy and stimulate me, may it be something related to my previous job, travelling
or going to the cinema, a concert or else. And of course, bringing up my child!

What advice would you give to women who want to follow
their Flow and make a change in their lives?

Stick with it, be persistent and confident! And also don’t
shy away from asking for help and support. Whilst finding your flow and
deciding to do something about it is your own responsibility, making it happen
requires a lot of help. Use whatever it is that you already have, may it be
contacts or savings, and then build a network. You won’t be able to do it all
by yourself.

Did you have any idea as a child you’d end up doing the
things you’ve done/ you are doing now?

No, but with hindsight it makes sense. I did a lot of
ballet when I was younger and went thought a stage of missing it terribly. But
by the time I tried to get back into it, it just didn’t feel right anymore. And
it made me feel very sad. I also always loved teaching, but adults rather than
children. And now here I am teaching movement to adults. It all came together
nicely in the end!

What has been your biggest challenge?

The initial stage of thinking about giving up my job and
changing lifestyle entirely and everything that came with it, the doubts, the
social and financial pressure etc. It took me a long time to get over it.
Sometimes I wish I hadn’t spent so long thinking about it. But then again maybe
it just wasn’t the right time.

Do you
believe it is possible to have a fulfilling career around your passion and a
family?

I think most things are possible as long as you have the
necessary support behind you. I have never taken for granted all the help that
I have had since training to become a Pilates teacher. When people ask me how I
did it, I always point out everything I have been able to rely on: my savings,
my husband’s psychological and financial support, my mother-in-law who has and
still helps me look after my son when I need her help… Maybe I would have
still done it without it all, but it would have been much harder. I will be
forever grateful for all the support I have had and still have.

What’s next for you?

Right now, I am working towards obtaining further
qualifications including one in low back pain prevention and management. My
short to medium term goal is to really get to grips with biomechanics. Once
I’ve got all my course work out of the way, my next big thing will be to start
working with musicians. I’ve always been fascinated by musicians. I suppose
mainly because of their sheer devotion to what they enjoy doing the most
however precarious, competitive and hard their working environment can be.
Talking about “being in your flow”, I
think they would have a thing or two to say about that!

http://bodyinmotionpilates.co.uk/

https://www.facebook.com/bodyinmotionpilates.co.uk/

Thank you so much for taking part and for the super lovely interview Vicky full of amazing advice and tips on how to find your Flow.

Big love

Petra xx

the FlowStyler



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