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Why mindfulness is super cool

What Philosophy? Posted on 12 May, 2016 08:59PM

I started
reading about the mind, mind management and mindfulness in my mid-twenties. I
was on a quest to ‘find’ myself and came across the importance of mind
management when striving to understand and create ourselves and our missions in
life.

Mindfulness
is another tool, originating from Buddhist teachings, that can help us manage
our minds and find that much needed ‘headspace’ in this busy and over
stimulated world. When we are mindful, we live in the moment connected with our
body and feelings and move away from the sometimes intense depths of the mind,
creating the space to balance ourselves.

How
it helps

Mindfulness
is a great way to learn to reconnect to ourselves and be conscious of the
‘mindchatter’ that goes on unnoticed in our heads, clouding our present moment
awareness and judgement. Susan Grandfield says, “This does not mean we do not think, have empty
minds or only have positive thoughts. Practising mindfulness will enable us to
be consciously aware of what we think or experience (either following a thought
– negative or positive – or deciding to let it go), enabling us to make the
choice as to how we respond (or not) to situations and gain deeper connection
to ourselves through acknowledging and understanding our feelings.”

This in return enables you to make a choice about how you will feel throughout
the day, whatever happens! Mindfulness is awareness and choice, enabling us to
focus, gain clarity, learn patience, reignite our curiosity and learn the
ability to let go.

Mindfulness
and goal achievement

Mindfulness
also helps you to create a balance with the goals that you are striving
towards. Goals are vital in moving us towards our aspirations as they give us
direction, focus and motivate us. However, goals need to be malleable and
adjustable. As we grow and adjust to our own development, that brings with it
new situations we need to stay aware to the impact the present moment has on
our goal. If we are firmly focused on our goals, we do not allow our goals to
grow, develop and even change direction. Mindfulness can bring you back to the
present moment. It can help us to let go of the stresses that are involved in
change and working towards our dreams and aspirations and give us the space to
think creatively and clearly. The mind needs that space back to rejuvenate
itself to enable optimal and conscious decision making towards our goals and
the ability to adjust.

Research

There already
exists research into the positive effects of mindfulness on our body and mind
and interestingly, on our reptilian part of the brain (situated at the
brainstem surrounding the top of the spinal cord). I find this really fascinating.
Mindfulness is said to calm the impulsive reactions of the primitive part of
our brain that controls the ’flight, fight or freeze’ responses, that can
sometimes take hold of us in varying degrees of severity. These days the NHS,
Google, the US Army and the UK Parliament are already using mindfulness tools
for various purposes, including stress, post-traumatic stress disorder and
depression.

Many have,
myself included, experienced the benefits of practising being mindful. I used
to feel overwhelmed by my own thoughts until I found a way to access, what I
then used to call ‘headspace’, where my brain was able to let go of thoughts,
especially those negative ones, without judgement, rejuvenate itself to be
ready for another wonderful and mindful day.

Connecting
to our purpose

Learning how to be mindful is finely interwoven with the different ways of
understanding (finding) and creating yourself too. It enables us to gain a
clarity into ourselves that enables us to make sense of what it is we want out
of this life, instead of following dogma. Through mindfulness we are able to
centre ourselves and be clearer on what it is we want and why it is we what we
want. Mindfulness connects us to that authentic and unique self inside that
allows us to be who we are and in return guide us, without worldly
interference, to our purpose.

The
skill of being mindful

Mindfulness
is a skill in itself and needs to be learned and practised regularly. Here are
a few easy ways to practise mindfulness daily.

A
really easy way to start practising mindfulness is to start noticing what is
going on around you without judgement. When you are walking to the train in the
morning, start by noticing things you encounter on your way (a bird signing, a
smile). If you catch yourself starting to think about your to do list, just
revert back to noticing what is happening around you, not questioning the
meaning or reasons of what you are observing and being judgement free.

This
can then be transferred to a 10-minute mindfulness session at home where you
close your eyes, sit upright, feet parallel, hands in your lap and start to
notice your berating. Follow your breath as it moves in and out of your lungs.
Breathing deep into your belly and relaxing your belly. Breathing in to each
body part. One at a time. Thoughts will appear, but kindly revert your focus
back to your breathing. Then move your attention to feeling all your body
parts, starting from your toes all the way to your finger tips and back to the
neck. Feel where tension lies and relax these parts of your body, breathing
into them so they relax.

Be
kind to yourself and rest assured that with practise, less thoughts will enter
your mindfulness zone. Susan Grandfield encourages us to spend at least 10
minutes a day practising mindfulness and increasing it as we grow. A great app
to use is Calm. It has really great mindfulness and meditation techniques and
sessions for all levels and different time spans. I love it!

I
have found mindfulness a huge relief, enabling me to connect to my inner wisdom
in the silence of my mind connected to my body. Once you master the mindfulness
practises you will notice how your mind yearns for these ‘relaxing’ times and
is able to outside of the sessions to revert faster to a space where you allow
yourself to be free from intense thought and instead focusing on the beauty of
life.

Happy
spring to you all!

Petra xx

The
FlowStyler



What are the secrets of people who are happy and how you can find that wisdom too ?

What Philosophy? Posted on 07 Apr, 2016 07:11PM

It is ever more openly spoken
about how self awareness and mind management are one of the top tools to help us
succeed and be happy in our life. However, being a happy camper doesn’t always come
easy to all of us. The good news is, that it is something that can be learned
and practised to permanence. We all have some of our past coding holding us
back at times but when shed light on and made aware can be decoded and recoded
into something more constitutive and life affirming.

We can learn a lot from the
people who are genuinely happy within themselves & their lives and take a note as to how
we could see a situation in a different light next time. Ever so often I go
over the below list of wisdoms making sure I’m staying on the right track.

What happy people do is they :

1. Focus their attention &
efforts on their own lives.

Happy people are too busy living their own lives to be checking up on what
others are getting up to, or not. Happy people are content in focussing their
time and attention on their own life and making a optimal present they love to
live in. Happy people speak well of others and seek to find the good in
everyone. They are content in their own lives and their own skin . Happy people
do not feel the need to please and focus on their own life and being who they
are.

2. Don’t compare themselves to
others
(on-line or off line). They
know that their life is unique and worth their focus and attention. They know
that if they put the right action plans in place they will get where they want
to go in their own time. As long as they keep moving and growing into the
direction they truly want to go they will get there. They know they can not
change others and thus seek to find people to associate themselves with who see
the world in similar terms.

3. Keep true to themselves. Happy people know that when they honour themselves
they will be happy in life. Whether it is choosing a partner or a job, type of
work environment or hobby, happy people go with what makes them tick and gets
them excited. Happy people are very aware (consciously or sometimes
unconsciously) of their values and believes and cultivate them. They do not let
the world’s chaos influence these. Happy people therefore make time to connect
to themselves, either through meditation, yoga, alone and quiet time. When they
are connected to themselves they ill be more centred and even more able to be
true to themselves when making decisions and choices in their life.

4. Live in the present. Happy people do not dwell on their past mistakes
and what they think they should have done. However they do take note and make
sure they do not make the same mistakes over and over again. Happy people
forgive others and themselves. They know the power of letting go, not only on
their mind, but body too. Happy people live in the now as they know this is the
only place they can make a change or influence how thing will turn out.

5. Are grateful and make time to
appreciate what they have.
Happy
people do not feel life owes them anything. They know that they have the power
within themselves to get what they need to live a happy life. They are
prepared to work and succeed on their own merits.
On the way towards what
they want they make sure they appreciate the journey and what they currently
have. They are a success already at any stage. They know they have worked on
themselves to get where they want to be and know how to be grateful for their
own efforts.

6. Choose friends wisely and
cherish alone time.
Happy people are comfortable
with or without people around them. In fact they cherish alone time as this is
their time to reconnect to themselves – their values and beliefs – which
influences their next steps. Daily centring enables them to reconnect with
their personal source of energy that is always present when connected to.
This is something no one can take away from them. It helps them navigate though
the chaos of life and feel centred each day.

7. Establish personal control. Happy people know the only thing they can change
and control is their own actions and work through any reactions that occur.
Happy people know that if they react their crumble points are pushed and they
will work through them until they get to a solution stage where they are in
control of their emotions again. Happy people also know that only constant
practise makes permanent.

8. Accept thing that can not be
changed.
You do not hear happy people
moan about the weather, that the lift is not working or lost luggage. They know
these are out of their control and not worth wasting energy on. They also know
that life will throw stuff at them which they have no control over, however
they have the belief in themselves that they can handle it to the best of their
abilities. Happy people know they have a choice in how they see the world and
how they react to what is happening to them daily.

9. See problems as challenges
and as a way to grow.
Happy
people do not shy away from difficult situations. They see challenges as
opportunities to grow and improve their skill set of life. They know each
problem or person (who gets under their skin) is there to teach them something
they can learn from and grow. They trust themselves to act with grace in any
situation.

10. Exercise daily and eat well.
Happy people know the power of
getting their body moving and heart pumping. They know how exercise can release
stress and make them feel better. They know that doing exercise they like will
motivate them to go out there and do it regularly. Happy people start small and
build up, they eat well and rarely feel they deny themselves anything as they
have a balanced diet.

11.Lastly, happy people are not
perma happy
. They too get sad and blue.
However the difference is that they refuse to dwell on things for too long.
Especially thing they have no control over. They know they have control over
their own emotions and actions. They make the choice to remove themselves from
bad situations that does not serve their growth and focus on the good that
there is.

Can you relate to these points? What
areas would you like to improve on? It takes time to grow so keep reviewing
this list frequently to direct your brain to seek more opportunities to use
these points and grow.

Share this with your friends and
see what they think.

Petra

xx



What are the secrets of happy people and how do they see life?

What Philosophy? Posted on 31 May, 2014 07:37PM

It is ever more openly spoken about how
self awareness and mind management are one of the top tools to help
us succeed and be happy in our life. However, being a happy camper doesn’t
come easy to all of us. The good news is it is something that can be
learned and practised to permanences. We all have our past coding
holding us back at times but when shed light on and made aware can be
decoded and recoded into something more constitutive and life affirming.

So how do happy people see life…

1. Do not focus their attention on others lives. Happy people are too busy living their own lives
to be checking up on what others are getting up to, or not. Happy
people are content in focussing their time and attention on their own
life and making a optimal present they love to live in. Happy people
speak well of others and seek to find the good in everyone. They are
content in their own lives and their own skin . Happy people do not
feel the need to please and focus on their own life and being who
they are.

2. Don’t compare themselves to
others
(on-line or off line). They know that their life is unique
and worth their focus and attention. They know that if they put the
right action plans in place they will get where they want to go in
their own time. As long as they keep moving and growing into the
direction they truly want to go they will get there. They know they
can not change others and thus seek to find people to associate
themselves with who see the world in similar terms.

3. Keep true to themselves. Happy
people know that when they honour themselves they will be happy in
life. Whether it is choosing a partner or a job, type of work
environment or hobby, happy people go with what makes them tick and
gets them excited. Happy people are very aware (consciously or
sometimes unconsciously) of their values and believes and cultivate
them. They do not let the world’s chaos influence these. Happy people
therefore make time to connect to themselves, either through
meditation, yoga, alone and quiet time. When they are connected to
themselves they ill be more centred and even more able to be true to
themselves when making decisions and choices in their life.

4. Live in the present.
Happy people do not dwell on their past mistakes and what they think
they should have done. However they do take note and make sure they
do not make the same mistakes over and over again. Happy people
forgive others and themselves. They know the power of letting go, not
only on their mind, but body too. Happy people live in the now as
they know this is the only place they can make a change or influence
how thing will turn out.

5. Are grateful and make time to
appreciate what they have.
Happy
people do not feel life owes them anything. They know that they have
the power within themselves to get what they need to live a happy
life. They are prepared
to work and succeed on their own merits.
On
the way towards what they want they make sure they appreciate the
journey and what they currently have. They are a success already at
any stage. They know they have worked on themselves to get where they
want to be and know how to be grateful for their own efforts.

6. Choose friends wisely and cherish
alone time.
Happy people are
comfortable with or without people around them. In fact they cherish
alone time as this is their time to reconnect to themselves – their
values and beliefs – which influences their next steps. Daily
centring enables them to reconnect with their personal source of
energy that is always present
when connected to. This is something no one can take away from them.
It helps them navigate though the chaos of life and feel centred each
day.

7. Establish personal control.
Happy people know the only thing they can change and control is their
own actions and work through any reactions that occur. Happy people
know that if they react their crumble points are pushed and they will
work through them until they get to a solution stage where they are
in control of their emotions again. Happy people also know that only
constant practise makes permanent.

8. Accept thing that can not be
changed.
You do not hear happy
people moan about the weather, that the lift is not working or lost
luggage. They know these are out of their control and not worth
wasting energy on. They also know that life will throw stuff at them
they have no control over however they have the belief in themselves
that they can handle it to the best of their abilities. Happy people
know they have a choice in how they see the world and how they react
to what is happening to them daily.

9. See problems
as challenges and as a way to grow.
Happy
people do not shy away from difficult situations. They see challenges
as opportunities to grow and improve their skill set of life. They
know each problem or person (who gets under their skin) is there to
teach them something they can learn from and grow. They trust
themselves to act with grace in any situation.

10. Exercise daily and eat well.
Happy people know the power of
getting their body moving and heart pumping. They know how exercise
can release stress and make them feel better. They know that doing
exercise they like will motivate them to go out there and do it
regularly. Happy people start small and build up. Happy people eat
well and rarely feel they deny themselves anything as they have a
balanced diet.

11.Lastly, happy people are not perma
happy
. They too get sad and
blue. However the difference is that they refuse to dwell on things
for too long. Especially thing they have no control over. They know
they have control over their own emotions and actions. They make the
choice to remove themselves from bad situations and do not serve
their growth and focus on the good that there is.

Can you relate to these
points?Anything you would like to add? It takes time to grow in each
of these areas. Review this list frequently to direct your brain to
seek more opportunities to reuse these skills and grow.

Share this with your friends and see
what they think. xx



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